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Female Outlook Of Marriage, Separation and Loneliness [Early stage of new life]





Disclaimer: This is my POV and I'm writing in general for most women out there. It is not meant to be the same with everyone.
Marriage is a blessing. It is a union of two hearts. It is a bond that hopefully will last forever. It is promise made fulfilled. Marriage is a merger of two becoming one. It is a huge leap with lots of responsibility.


However, once a woman is married, she'll be single. She will be parted from her family and her siblings. She now only have her husband as her rock, her life-vest, her boat. She is to be lonely. She is separated. She will have to face new world, new changes that is alien to her. She is needed to adapt. For Asian countries, she is needed in the in-laws house. No one ever told you that it is lonely indeed when you are married. Unlike guys, women tend to leave their social life after they got married. When guys can still hang out with their friends, for women, the thought of spending time with friends when her family is at home seem like a sin. She will make sure that she is home and make most of her time with family. It is an inevitable responsibility as woman.

So yes, women will be touchy and sensitive when their men didn't lend them their ears or shoulder to cry on. You need to make it easier to have transition for her in her life after she married you.


Your wife is making huge sacrifice to be with you. They accepted and adapted to be with you. So words of advise for men out there.

All you have to do is:
Always listen to what your wife has to say. Listening is key to great relationship. You might not get used to having spouse with bossy tone (that tend to happen with female) but listening to them unraveling about their stress and discomfort will ease the tension in the early stage of marriage. 

Always support each other. She only have you to rely on and she will lean on you. Offer support and encouragement to ensure that you'll be there. come what may.

Always tell them that you'll be there for your spouse. That you care. Words comfort the soul. 

Communication is the key for great relationship. Always talk to each other no matter what. Fights may ensue from communication as women and men thinks differently but more stress will come up if the arguments are not resolved. Find ways to communicate with each other effectively. Control your ego and LISTEN.


Try to understand your partner by LISTENING and COMMUNICATING with each other. 



Find your partner's love languages through this link HERE

Hopefully, we can all combat our loneliness and separation after marriage. 

Cheers.

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